Life is like a book full of blank pages with many writing possibilities. You as the sole author of your life have the power to determine what will be written inside. Though circumstances might arise, the storm might blow but as the sailor, you need to know how to control your sail despite the wind. Another life must not be your reference book. Link to part 1 here
Not every ship heads the same direction though there maybe be some that have headed towards your direction before or maybe heading toward the same goal as you, you can learn from them but don’t let their lifestyle influence you.
You might not be getting the result you want, you may be getting drown in the storm but all you need is to keep your head up above the sea level. Do not get overwhelmed in your sorrow and problems sometimes all we need is a little help in time of problem, a little motivation from friends or families. Not every problem can be conquered by your own self-will. Sometimes pilots need copilot.
Choose your friends wisely they are your likely copilot. Your association determines your life to a large extent. The people you associate with, the people you choose as your co-author in life goes a long way in determining your future. A Yoruba adage says “show me your friends and I will show you who you are” this shows the level association can go in our day-to-day life.
Also, your way of thinking have a lot of influence on our life. YOU are what YOU are is same as you are what you are thinking. Your thinking shapes your life. If you think low you will reap low.
There are different types of thinkers which I will list below:
1. Optimistic thinker
2. Pessimistic thinker
3. Idealistic thinker
4. Illusionist
1. Optimistic thinker: The optimistic thinker is someone sees an opportunity in every scenario. An optimistic thinker sees a gate on every wall, sees a ladder in every blockage. An optimistic thinker doesn’t gives up easily. They pushes on and on and on.
They are consistent, friendly and jovial. They motivates others in the same type of problem. The optimistic thinker creates an atmosphere of freedom around himself. He does not let his environment determines his behaviour.
They take responsibilities for their action and does not blames others for their predicament. The optimistic thinker is calm, patience and expectant.
They believe in a brighter tomorrow and they do not rely solely on others. The optimistic thinker tends to achieve since they face and solves their problem than hiding or scampering away from them.
They are problem solvers. They creates a gates in every wall, a ladder for every fence. They overcome barriers easily. They are not easily swayed by the storm around them. Optimism spreads, it affects people around thereby building the capacity of others around them and also strengthening them also.
2. The pessimistic thinker: the pessimistic thinker is someone who sees ‘the dark side’ of every situation. They focus less on the light and gave the utmost attention to the darkness.
They are encompassed in sorrow and let the society influences their thinking. The pessimistic thinker sees the bush behind every wall, a mountain behind every valley, the ocean behind the sea. They are toxic and highly influences people around them, beware of this type of people.
Most pessimistic thinker have a bad background, a bullied childhood, a nagging parent etcetera. They have seen the rough side of life and have succumbed to it.
Though they always prepare for the worse, they also full of insecurities. The faces storm ‘life problems’ with ‘eyes full of terror’ they allowed the demonic part of being human takes over them. When they succeed, they tend to chase people away from them, they isolate themself from people which makes them prone to ‘utmost depression’.
The pessimistic thinker want to win but hope they lose. They usually hide behind the mask of ‘rudeness and ferocity’ but deep down they are weak and prone to failure.
The pessimistic thinker is scared of taking a step, they prefer to drag along the lane. They are scared of innovation and ideas. They have laid down rules and principles that they are scared of breaking or bypassing, thinking it will lead to their destruction.
They tend to win battles but loses the war because they can not foresee the future. They believe the future is a mystery and they are unwilling to unravel. They do not believe in tomorrow, they judge today (present moment) by yesterdays action (past ).
They do not believe in mistake and if they make one, it beats them down and makes them drowned in their sorrow. It is easier to make a fish believe it can fly than to make a pessimism thinker to be optimist.
3. The idealistic thinker: An idealistic thinker believes firmly in something that is good probably impossible to achieve. The idealistic thinker sees possibilities and innovation in every situation.
They are revolutionaries, n they believe in visions and a new method of doing things. The idealistic thinker rules the world. They believe in moving from nothing to something, from zero to one.
They do not follow the crowd. They creates path in bushes. New technologies and modern inventions come from the mind of idealistic thinkers. They creates an air of optimism around themselves.
They believe in greater tomorrow. They don’t compete, they creates path. They always find a new way, they see the world from another dimension. They are strong-willed. They are humorous in their way 0f thinking. The idealistic thinker sees the hole in the dam and patches it up.
The idealistic thinker makes the world a better place to live by bringing inventions and innovation that renovates others thinking.
They idealistic thinker is open, jovial, a bit friendly, most of idealistic thinkers are introverts and they creates air of mysteries around themselves. They don’t like the usual customs of doing things.
4. The illusionist: the illusionist creates a world of himself for himself. He creates a compelling image of his memory and makes it looks so real.
The illusionist dreams of a flying mat when blocked by a fence.
It makes something unreal looks so real than necessary. The illusionist dwells in its mind. He lives in a world of all possibilities with less reality. He is lonely in his world.
He doesn’t feel belong in the normal world, so he isolates himself due to his fear. They are prone to many weaknesses which can be used against them.
The illusionist might have a great idea but he keeps them with himself and never acts on it.
TO BE CONTINUED.
First published on Medium.