On things on my mind lately (Part 2)

It’s been a while since I wrote something personal. This is going to be a follow-up to the first part of this essay. You can read part 1 here. So a year later, here we are, with another one.

I have a lot running through my mind lately (pun intended or whatever), a lot has happened between the first part and now, the good, the bad and the ugly. I steer towards newer philosophies, new ways of thinking, and lately, I have been trying to research how to systemise (or programme your way of thinking, anything that is, but it keeps popping up in my head).

I took a lot of ideas for this from my screenshots, I had some things from the internet and movies that I thought were cool for me to look at again. I will be sharing them here, with the newer updates and newer things on how I run my life as of today.

So let’s enjoy this ride. I will probably use a lot of filler words this time, idk, but let’s see.

Compartmentalization

I probably threw around this word a lot around 2018/19 when I came across it on Medium. So basically, to me, it is a simple word; it just means “divide”. When my friends ask me, how do I handle stuff, I usually throw in the word “compartmentalisation” but it doesn’t usually make sense lol when trying to explain it. So it is a defence mechanism you build for yourself to handle stuff, either positive or negative. Think of it in a way, “alter ego” works. So you separate the good stuff from the bad stuff and then put them away at the back of your mind. So pretty, easier in theory. If something doesn’t go the way you want, just put it away and focus on other things.

Things do not work this way, tho, but it does work for me. You feel less anxiety, pressure, emotions because you can just bottle them up but for most people that compartmentalize, it’s backfires because how much more water can a bottle holds till it explodes and everything is explodable, including you (hehe probably me), so hopefully I have more good years from here on so I won’t have to compartmentalize anymore. I have probably not had a fully good year in a while, probably on more than 5 years streaks now, but who is counting? Not me. But compartmentalisation has worked for me, and I have not lost my composure in between.

So next time, you are going through something that seems insurmountable, try putting it at the back of your mind, start from the small things, from there you might be able to hide a world behind that mind of yours. I am wishing you one less problem (sadness looks like a big word lol) at a time.

“Because, sometimes in this world, unexpected things happen.”

This is gotten from a screenshot when watching Anime (My Hero Academia). I will be attaching the screenshot below.

Last year, 2024. I had the whole time to map out my 2025, and all the conclusions I had arrived at are great, perfect even. In my mind, I rarely miss, and this is just one of the times I have had a full year with not much going on, so I had a lot of time to reminisce and even travel, hehe. But well, turns out unexpected thing happens, I lost my dad to cancer in March 2025, everything happened in the space of 6 months. So when I see this, the resonates with me more, but probably not enough to put in a writing until yesterday.

I went to upgrade my laptop RAM at a store. Then a guy was discussing with the store owner when he asked him, Why does the guy no longer go to ‘Banex store’. Then the guy went ahead and told the man how he had lost her mother to breast cancer last year and how everything went down, and in the end he said, “With all those things happening, I wasn’t able to go further with the venture” So, truly, unexpected things do happen. I hope those it happens to survive and get another chance to do what they plan.

Woke up early. There was no worm.

This is also from a screenshot, it was gotten from X ( Twitter). I find it both extremely funny but also sad. I mean, we do a lot of stuff right, but sometimes, things just don’t work out as we plan.

Some people, a lot I also know, put in a lot of work, and things just don’t seem to bloom. Not that they didn’t follow what society laid down, sometimes, there is just no worm. Not your fault, not the society, because there is mostly worm in the morning lmao. So, back to saying, unexpected things happen. I hope everyone gets to have some worms one day. Sending motivation to all the guys that I know who are still waiting for their worms. Keep it up, one morning, a worm will appear lol.

‘Cause the game is the game, and there ain’t no respawn, just game over.’

This is from a lyric, “Pandemic” by Arrdee, where he was telling a story about a young guy growing up in the street. This reminds me of a phrase by Naval: “Avoid Ruin“. Life doesn’t have a respawn button, so if you gamble too much, land in jail or worse, damage your health. It is game over. So in all you do, never get wiped out to zero. Never, there is no respawn.

“We might be bruised, but we’re not broken”

This is also a screenshot from a song lyrics “Our Way” by Chris Webby. I randomly found this song in the past month, and well, it’s stuck on my playlist. It’s kind of motivating, maybe idk but chilly to the ear. I have had a lot of episodes in the past few years where I can say, this word might have helped. Crazy, but yeah. So for me, bruise heals; they might leave a scar, but they heal. So yayy, just strive to survive the moment. Just bruises, not broken bones.

A strategy that works for me is to rile yourself up if it gets tough. Let your anger override the external one. Focus on something bigger to worry about. I had a personal write-up from 2023. I will be attaching the screenshot below (sorry, but it’s unedited, lol.) It is embarrassing to put out, but welps, if I am writing all this, why not just add that too? I don’t know who might need it.

“You know me, I am always happy.”

This is also from a screenshot from a movie. I am trying to remember the backstory, but my memory is not serving me at the moment. Personally, I think emotions are inefficient. I am not saying they are bad, in fact the happier you are, the better you perform. So this philosophy, I am working on and hope its get better. But in a world that you can be anything, BE HAPPY.

Happiness is contagious, knowingly or unknowingly. You don’t know who is looking. So strive, among all odds. Don’t be pitiable, be happy.

Reawaken the possibility of possibility.

I have forgotten where I saw but well, I like it. In simple English, it means create your own luck. One thing I always try to tell people close to me, have hope. It might not need to work, but there is a feeling that comes when you have something in your pipeline, a gleam of hope. Maybe by applying for a job and awaiting response, reaching out to people and awaiting a response, learning something, etc, but always leave a chance to hope for something. The possibility of a possibility. If you do nothing, nothing will move.

So send an email a day, try to learn a new thing, try to create something, gamble an expect result but each day, try and do something that makes you expect something big may or may not happen tomorrow. Personally, I just like having hope.

“How do you get a fort like this?” – “You build it”

This is from a movie on Netflix. I am struggling to remember the title now. It was released this year (2025). A young boy was asking an old man how he got his fort, and well, that was the answer. You build it.

So this is easy: build your own fort. No one will build it for you, except, well, if your father has a fort, which is better because you just have to maintain it (good for you lol, I am jealous). Brick by Brick, Stone by Stone from the ground up. Build the legacy you want to have. No one will do it for you. Not everyone will have a name imprinted on a wall, and you most likely won’t see your legacy. But build something you want to be remembered for, or better still, who cares about legacy, but build a fort you want to live in, with your name inscribed on it.

So I will leave you with this: BUILD, BUILD, BUILD.

Specialisation is for ants.

“A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly. Specialisation is for insects.”

The title is an adaptation from X (Twitter). Don’t know how to do just one thing lmao. Thinking about this, it is funny.

Don’t be limited by just one thing you know or have been taught. Venture into stuff, make things, break things, try things because they are hard, try things because they are simple, try things because they are hype. Do it just to do it. Be versatile. Life is so easy, you can just do stuff. You don’t even need to know how it works, just do it. Know the basics. Don’t chase a niche, niches are for cowards.

Do things, fail in them. Do another, fail in it till you succeed in one. You only need to be right once, and that’s all. DIVERSIFY or DROWN. Also, life is more fun if you know a lot of things that can be done, and it is also bragworthy. Don’t just know how to repair a car, know how to plant a maize. Learn all, Do all. Learn Biology, Learn Sociology, Learn Chemistry, read History. Don’t have a favourite. Dont pick a niche. Don’t be an ant.

Yes, it is so over. But for a beautiful moment in time, we were so back

haha, just leaving it here. Hopefully, life will have gotten better before I write part 3. See you guys. And for most of you, I am rooting for you. Also, I got a note among all the shenegians.